I need to answer the three questions once again, but complete the exercise this time, and bring about what I want in life.
What do I want to do? And why?
Who do I want to be with? And why?
Where do I want to be? And why?
Fulfilling one's life boils down to answering these three questions, and everything else is just décor.
This Ted Talk I had recently watched has an interesting theory, that the key to happiness is to stay in the moment; the kernel of the idea being that mind-wandering leads us into an unhappy state of being. While I completely agree with the idea, I don't fully subscribe to the idea that we should be happy at all times, and that all emotions have their place in our lives. If you cannot experience sadness, then what meaning does happiness have?
Furthermore, sadness, has its place because it tells us that something is wrong in our lives. All emotional states have their purpose, even the negative ones. In much the same way anger, in most cases tells us, that we have been wronged.
The purpose of mind-wandering for me is to run exercises on what is wrong, or how I can improve my life in some way. This brings me to the three questions, which I think should be answered in times of change. I cannot remember where I found these three questions, a book, a video clip, or a sound clip, but, nonetheless. They are here, and whatever brought them here does not matter, only that the questions are available as an exercise.
This year, prior to a work holiday party (in February, if memory serves), I wrote out these three questions and answered two out of three before I left to join my coworkers for a night of revelry, drink, and food. I was not clear on one of the questions, and oddly enough, the two that I answered have started to progress in the direction I chose at the time -great! The one I did not answer on paper, but did have the answer in mind ~ has languished ~ the result, suffering in that aspect of my life. I let circumstances decide for me, rather than exert will to define my life. This way of living can lead to regret, which was nicely defined in this other Ted Talk, because sometimes circumstances and other people do not have our own best interest at heart.
Life is never about a goal, in the end, it is about the journey towards reaching those goals, yet the goals must be defined to begin the journey. Time is short, do yourself a favor, take a pen and paper (don't type), find a calm place where you can write, and answer these questions for yourself.
What do I want to do? And why?
Who do I want to be with? And why?
Where do I want to be? And why?
Fulfilling one's life boils down to answering these three questions, and everything else is just décor.
This Ted Talk I had recently watched has an interesting theory, that the key to happiness is to stay in the moment; the kernel of the idea being that mind-wandering leads us into an unhappy state of being. While I completely agree with the idea, I don't fully subscribe to the idea that we should be happy at all times, and that all emotions have their place in our lives. If you cannot experience sadness, then what meaning does happiness have?
Furthermore, sadness, has its place because it tells us that something is wrong in our lives. All emotional states have their purpose, even the negative ones. In much the same way anger, in most cases tells us, that we have been wronged.
The purpose of mind-wandering for me is to run exercises on what is wrong, or how I can improve my life in some way. This brings me to the three questions, which I think should be answered in times of change. I cannot remember where I found these three questions, a book, a video clip, or a sound clip, but, nonetheless. They are here, and whatever brought them here does not matter, only that the questions are available as an exercise.
This year, prior to a work holiday party (in February, if memory serves), I wrote out these three questions and answered two out of three before I left to join my coworkers for a night of revelry, drink, and food. I was not clear on one of the questions, and oddly enough, the two that I answered have started to progress in the direction I chose at the time -great! The one I did not answer on paper, but did have the answer in mind ~ has languished ~ the result, suffering in that aspect of my life. I let circumstances decide for me, rather than exert will to define my life. This way of living can lead to regret, which was nicely defined in this other Ted Talk, because sometimes circumstances and other people do not have our own best interest at heart.
Life is never about a goal, in the end, it is about the journey towards reaching those goals, yet the goals must be defined to begin the journey. Time is short, do yourself a favor, take a pen and paper (don't type), find a calm place where you can write, and answer these questions for yourself.
